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Five Core Competencies of Conflict Resolution Part Three: Accept Reproof

Whenever I teach on peacemaking I ask those at the seminar, “Which aspect of conflict resoluti...

Five Core Competencies of Conflict Resolution Part Two: Lovingly Reprove

This is part two in a series about the five core competencies of conflict resolution. In my last blog I focused on taking responsibility. We are accountable for our part in the conflict, and we take initiative by going to the person privately. But what do we say? This is the second core competency.

Five Core Competencies of Conflict Resolution Part One

We all know the pain of conflict. We have been wounded by words and wounded others with our words. In our hearts we realize that unresolved conflict poisons relationships and multiplies alienation. So we need help. Many people have the will to make peace but not the skill. So in my next number of blogs I want to strengthen readers' will and help with the skills of peacemaking. To do that, we will look at five core competencies of conflict resolution.

Growing Pains, Cultural Diversity & Gifting Fit: Three Challenges for Leaders

There is a fascinating account about wise leadership and conflict resolution in the early church. Acts 6:1-6 describes three kinds of challenges that face leaders continually. The church was growing, cultural diversity was increasing, and old structures were creaking. I'm going to look at this text and address three key questions for us in our leadership roles today.

Don't Get Ambushed: Two Things You Can Do When Sparks Fly on Your Team

Leaders disagree, sparks fly, and teams divide. Been there. Done that. Here are two lessons I have gleaned that can help you keep from being ambushed by conflict.

Shari’a and Homegrown Terrorism

Especially since the 9/11 attacks on US soil, we Americans have struggled to come to terms with the concept of Sharia. One of the (secondary) justifications for our invasion of Afghanistan in the wake of those murderous attacks was to liberate their women from the clutches of this medieval and repressive system. True, the Taliban's legal code forbade women from going to school, working, and wearing anything in public but the traditional village burqa. But our fear of Sharia is not just about women's rights, or even some of the prescribed punishments for theft or adultery that seem barbaric to us. Our real fear, understandably, is terrorism.

Sweet People, Sweet Potatoes: Multi-Faith Friends Do the Dirty Work

Last spring, I had the privilege of facilitating the launch of a group we would later begin calling "Multi-Faith Friends for the Common Good." On March 11, three Jews, four Muslims, and five Christians met in the library at Apex Mosque with two chief goals. One, we wanted to have a go at building genuine, authentic friendship with one another across the obvious cultural and ideological divides, which were perceived to be vast. And two, we wanted to see if, in the context of these new friendships, we could find a way to work together for the good of our community.

Peace in the Middle East? The End Times and Obedience to Jesus

"You shouldn't work for peace in the Middle East, because the Bible teaches there will never be peace there. What you are trying to do is contrary to Scripture. The Bible teaches that the end times will be an age of horrendous persecution and spiritual darkness. Your efforts are useless!" I hear stuff like this all the time. What bothers me is that people don't just apply it to the Middle East. They apply it to all of life. Society is sinking into the cesspool of sin, and there is no way out.

Following the Radical Jesus: Why are Christians so bad at loving the “other?”

"Christians do very well as compared to the rest of society. They are neighborly, forgiving and caring for the poor...." So writes Bradley R.E. Wright. This is good news. But even this positive book acknowledges that Christians, on the whole, still don't like people of other races, religions, and sexual orientation. Christians struggle with loving the "other."

Do You Know Any Muslims?

This is a fantastic 5-minute video of Carl Medearis talking about some common objections he hears to befriending and doing peacemaking with Muslims. We highly recommend it, and feel free to share this with your friends.